Is a Toxic Ex Still Taking Up Space in Your Head — and Costing You Focus at Work?
A Reset for Women Who’ve Left the Relationship — but Still Can’t Focus, Rest, or Feel Like Themselves.
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what’s distracting you isn’t your fault
but it's costing you everything
Can’t Focus at Work
Your brain feels hijacked — replaying moments, spinning through what-ifs, zoning out mid-sentence. You’re still getting things done, but it’s taking twice the energy to stay sharp.
Losing Your Edge
You’re not slow — you’re second-guessing. What used to take one clean decision now takes a spiral and recovery.
Risking Your Position
The longer this runs in the background, the more it chips at your clarity, authority, and ability to lead under pressure. The cost isn’t just personal — it’s professional.
You’re Strong Enough to Move On, but the past keeps pulling you back.
Always On Edge
You look composed, but your body’s bracing — jaw tight, chest tense, heart racing over nothing. It’s exhausting to stay “fine” when you’re constantly scanning for what might go wrong.
On Autopilot
You’re saying the right things and smiling at the right times — but you’re not really in the room. You’re performing calm while holding in chaos.
No Room to Exhale
Your bandwidth is maxed. Even in the quiet moments, you’re thinking, fixing, checking — and feeling guilty for not doing more.
hi, i'm nikki paschar
I Know What It’s Like to Feel Stuck—And That You Don’t Have to Stay There.
I’ve been where you are—feeling stuck, exhausted, and wondering if life would ever feel light again. When I left a soul-draining relationship, I thought emotional freedom would come automatically, but the patterns I developed followed me: overthinking, second-guessing, and emotional walls.
It wasn’t until I started releasing those patterns—examining the beliefs and fears holding me back—that everything changed. My confidence returned, all of my relationships became healthier, and I stopped second-guessing myself. That transformation inspired me to help others do the same.
Now, I guide women like you to break free from a past filled with toxic relationships, rebuild self-trust, and step into the life they’ve been yearning for.
Signature Coaching Process
Your Roadmap to Freedom, Certainty, and Resilience
In my coaching program, Rise & Thrive, I work with successful, driven women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s who’ve left the toxic relationship — but still feel the fallout at work. You’re showing up, performing under pressure, keeping it together — but your focus is fractured, your energy is drained, and your confidence feels thin.
You’re sharp. You’re capable. But behind the scenes, you’re overthinking every message, second-guessing yourself in meetings, and holding your breath through high-stakes moments. You’re fragile — it’s that your mind and body never stopped bracing.
This isn’t about mindset. It’s about resetting the part of you still wired in fight-or-flight — so your decisions, your presence, and your voice hold steady, even under stress.
Get your clarity back.
You stop spinning, freezing, or replaying — and start making clear decisions without second-guessing yourself.
Your nervous system stops running the show.
You respond to stress with presence instead of adrenaline — no more bracing for impact all day long.
Lead at work without collapsing after.
You stop leaking energy trying to stay composed, and start showing up fully without the internal crash afterward.
Stop micromanaging your emotions to keep the peace.
No more walking on eggshells — with your team, your partner, or yourself. You stay steady without having to hold back, shrink, or fake calm to get through the day.
Feel like yourself again — steady, sharp, and grounded.
Not just “coping well,” but actually living, leading, and connecting from a place that feels like you.
ready to fall in love with your life?
It’s Time To Create A Life You Can’t Wait To Wake Up To.
Book a Call
Click the button below to book your complimentary Clarity Under Pressure Blueprint Call to get clear on what’s keeping you stuck.
Get Your Map
We’ll pinpoint where your system’s holding tension — and how to reset without slowing down.
Start the Shift
Walk away with tools you can use now — and next steps if you’re a fit for deeper work.